When you’re faced with embracing a new normal
That is totally different than what you’re used to. It can feel really awkward at first like you don’t know what to do with yourself. Remember it’s going to be ok, you’re going to be alright, this too shall pass. In the grand scheme of life, this is just a moment in time, if you look at your entire life as a big picture. I understand that it’s hard sometimes to think and see things as a big picture but try.
You have to help yourself.
Find the strength deep within to stand. Use this new normal as a perfect time to learn lessons to overcome, be strong, courageous and connect within to your inner spirit, true essence.
You have so much available to you that you can access.
With Everything that’s going on in the world today
It’s important to try to stay calm and not get to hung up on stress and fear. We can be careful and take precautions, but we don’t have to give in to the fear. It’s so important to remember to make time to connect within to your inner spirit/true self/true essence/God/universe, to find peace, calm and be centered.
Getting stressed and overwhelmed with fear and worry will do you no good.
It doesn’t help you in any way. It’s good to plan and be concerned, I’m not saying put blinders on and stick your head in the sand. I’m saying that you can take precautions and have faith, hope, believe, be strong. You can choose to not let ruminating negative thoughts take hold of you and bring you down.
In your life there are ups and downs, hills and valleys.
It’s natural and normal. It’s ok. Some people think that they have to stay up all the time, and although that feels wonderful it’s not possible. The highs feel even more joyous when you’re coming up from a low, so trust it. Trust the ebb and flow of life.
If you can relax a bit and trust
In something greater than yourself that you can find the strength and courage and hope to rise, it will be sweeter. Sometimes it feels as though you will never rise again. It feels so sick and hard and stuck in muck, but you will rise.
When I had 3 catastrophes hit me at the same time in the course of 3 years, it was very hard. I didn’t have time to recover and process the one, and then the other came. It was a very stressful and anxious time for me. I couldn’t see the big picture of ever coming up, because I was in survival mode. Day to day survival mode.
It was already a very busy time for me. I was a working mother of three boys, with busy schedules. I wasn’t good then at prioritizing myself.I took care of everyone else. Sometimes I felt like I was running on adrenaline and that will only deplete you unless you take the needed time to recharge and fill your cups again.Only you can do this, if you know how to take care of yourself. Everyone’s different and we all need different things at different times.
I got sick with Lyme’s disease after being bit by a deer tick while raking leaves in my yard. We had just moved to the woods and I did a lot of research on Lyme because I didn’t want my children to get it, who were very young at the time. When I came in from raking leaves I saw that I was being bitten and the tick was drawing blood.
I knew the signs to look out for and sure enough, 10 days later I had classic flu-like symptoms, trouble breathing, severe aches and pains and was miserable. I went to the Doctor and got put on an antibiotic right away, but I got worse before I got better. It took a few days for the antibiotic to start to work.
Lyme’s disease usually lay dormant in your body, it seemed like stress brought mine out, leading to several more rounds of antibiotic. But since changing my life into a mostly calm, peaceful one. I never have Lyme’s symptoms ever, because I learned skills to never let myself get to stressed.
Right after the bout with Lyme’s my Father got sick and was terminally ill and died in two months of his diagnose’s. He was only in his sixties and I was in my thirties, I was very close to him and not ready to lose my Dad. That was crushing to me.
Right after that our house was flooded and we lost a lot. Half of our house, 2 vehicles, our children’s toys and much more. It’s hard for me to even talk about these incidences in my life, but I realize that I have to if I can help you. I want you to know that you’re not alone, you never are alone. There are great forces and power available to you like there was for me. We are all the same and you can access it too.
I want you to know that I do understand. Even if what you have been through or will go through is not the same as mine. I want you to know that I do understand grief, pain, loss, struggle, anxiety, stress, depression. And I’m here to help you.
I picked these three examples because they were hard and they happened on top of each other, which for some reason it seems to happen like that. What it does teach you if you want to look at the good because there is always good in every situation. What it does teach you is that You are stronger than you think you are. You are brave, and courageous. You will conquer.
It teaches you that you can trust in something bigger than yourself. It’s available for you.
You will learn patience. You are a survivor.
A very important lesson that I have learned is to put myself first. With anything that you face, you have to remember to take care of yourself, whatever that is for you.
It could be something simple like…
People underestimate the power of just being in the space that you’re in. The present moment.
Whatever self-care looks like to you.
Only you know what you need. It will look different than everyone else’s, it’s ok, YOU ARE YOU.
Exercise. sit or play with a puppy. talk to a friend. relax. binge watch netflix.
It’s important to prioritize yourself first, even if it’s for a few minutes every day. Get up early before everyone else does. Take care of yourself because you can’t pour from an empty cup.
Healthy boundaries are important to have put into place. It’ easier to have them in place when you know what you want. Because then you know what you don’t want which then allows you to say no and that will keep you healthier. Not being available all the time for everyone, leaving yourself last, then there’s nothing left for you.
Reinvent yourself when you’re embracing the new normal.
I have created a mini-course. It’s called
“The Stress and Anxiety Survival guide and Toolbox”.
In it are strategies, skills and techniques that I’ve used and continue to do and I have taught them to many others. They can help with immediate stress relief or life-changing transformation.
Please reach out to me and let me know if you have any questions, through the comments or email.
The link for the course is below.
maria-sibilla-s-school.teachable.com
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