Stand your ground. Sometimes you have to take a stance and dig your heels in a not move. We grow and change and evolve in this world and we are not the same person that we were when we were children, and that’s ok.
It’s sometimes a challenge when you have to go back and deal with people from your past who want to treat you like they use to but you’re not the same person anymore. You grew, expanded, changed and put a lot of work into yourself and you aren’t going to abandon all of that to please someone or something from your past.
You need to put boundaries in place, boundaries that weren’t there before, lines in the sand. unapologetically. You wish that you were able to do it earlier in your life, but you weren’t able to for one reason or another. So you have to do it now.
Do not get pushed around by anyone in your life anymore. Not anyone in this world at all ever again.
It leaves you feeling used, controlled, manipulated, like you are cleverly being mistreated. You don’t like the feeling of it, it makes you sick and brings back ill memories.
You’ve learned that you have to set boundaries up for yourself, that feel good for you, despite what anyone else says or does or thinks. You have to stay true to yourself and live the life of your dreams and your vision without feeling guilty.
Other people do it with ease, without a glimpse of guilt or worry or care, or concern. They have a clear vision of what their life looks like and nothing will stand in the way of that, and therefore they are respected by others.
When you don’t have clear boundaries that you can communicate clearly, you send mixed messages to others who want to cross the line. You need to get clear on your wants, needs and clearly demonstrate that in the world, by standing your ground, digging your heels in and not moving.
You need to stand your ground. You worked long and hard to create the life of your dreams and you are not going back to what made you sick in the first place. You spent so much time learning and growing and healing as a person. You transformed already, now don’t go back to being a caterpillar, you can’t and shouldn’t go backward. Go forward.
Spend time quieting your mind.
This daily practice will get you in touch with your inner self allowing you to connect to your truth and your desires. You can do this in a number of ways. Meditation either guided or on your own, prayer, breathwork, write out your thoughts in a journal. Write your questions, concerns, feelings, this will help you to sort out your thoughts and allow you to get in touch with your feelings and desires for your life.
Clearly state your thoughts and feelings to others.
Don’t be afraid to speak up and say what it is that you want and don’t want in your life. Don’t be afraid to hurt others feelings, this is your life, you get to decide what will work for you and what won’t.
You might find that you have to continuously repeat your boundaries.
If they are new for you and you are new to this. The people that have been in your life for a while will be used to not having any boundaries with you. They are used to pushing you around and getting anything that they want from you. This is a new skill for you to practice.
Get very, very clear on what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate from others.
Stand your ground, communicate it over and over until they back down. Be ready to do it again and again because they will retry you every chance they get, some will try to wear you down and wait until the perfect opportunity to gain access. But you have learned to stand your ground, dig your heels in and not move.
Maintain a healthy space so that you will not lose yourself.
Someone that tends to be a people pleaser gives away their thoughts, ideas, everything for others and people that like to take, test those perimeters often. To stand your ground keep a safe distance to protect yourself so that you can always tap into your own thoughts again remembering who you are and what you want in your life. Taking care of yourself properly will help with this.
Practice communicating your desires.
People often even like it and have more respect for you when you have clear lines drawn in the invisible sand. But that’s not the important thing here, the main objective is protecting you and pleasing you. Your desires come first and foremost. Period, then you can help others, then you can take care of others and nobody gets to decide what that is for you, except you. Because there isn’t anyone in this world that knows you the way you do. So practice setting your boundaries and stating them clearly.
Stand your ground over and over and over again.
This is a skill that you can learn. Some people learn this early on in life and have no problem doing this. Others like myself learned the hard way and it took me years to learn this and I’m still practicing it. With certain people in my life from the past especially who aren’t used to having boundaries with me. But I will continue to stand my ground and live my best life for me.
Always go back to your center to get grounded, calm and peaceful.
Be with your own thoughts so that you can sift and sort out what it is that you desire to be in your life and what you don’t want. That’s where your power is.
I hope this blog post helps you in some way, so you can stand your ground.
Love and Light,
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