Trying to forgive yourself and others so you can move on

Forgiveness doesn’t excuse the behavior. It prevents the behavior from destroying your heart.
We’ve all been hurt and we’ve all made stupid mistakes and hurt others. You have to learn to let it go. Try to forgive yourself and others so you can move on. It’s a gift that you give yourself so that you can be free.
Forgiveness can be one of life’s biggest challenges for us.

Here are some ways to forgive according to Mindvalley University.

4 Steps to achieve forgiveness

1. Trying to understand why a person behaves the way that they do can help to get a different perspective. It can create compassion and loosen the negative feelings toward them.
2. Express your feelings in a healthy way to release the anger.  Be aware of your feelings and the way they affect your body and mind.
3. Write it out, talk it out, have a good cry, chop wood, work out, whatever works for you as long as you’re not hurting yourself or others.
4. Talk to the person about it if you can, make sure you’re calm and safe.  If you don’t want to talk to the person, imagine a conversation with them, talking it over with them out loud then release it.
5. Rebuild boundaries. Once you express all negative emotion, create new boundaries for yourself.
   This can be not seeing the person in your life for a while until you have time to heal or establish new boundaries in the relationship.
6. Give yourself time and space to express your feelings and wait until you can let it go and heal.
7. Protect yourself and your emotions. Some people won’t understand this especially if they are family or close friends. Try to explain but if they don’t understand you need to do it anyway. Sometimes you have to put your own needs above the needs of others.
8. Letting go can take a few days but also can take years. You cannot forgive and heal instantly. Often you will feel better than the grieving will come back again. This is completely normal. Give yourself time and space to heal, it will happen. Forgiveness is one of the highest qualities and greatest powers we as humans can have, but it takes time to cultivate this, it can’t happen on its own we have to work on it and it’s sometimes hard to do.
   Choosing to forgive means choosing to avoid negative emotions such as anger, depression, and hurt. Prayer and meditation can also help. Asking for Gods help in prayer and releasing the anger through meditation. Forgiving others will help you to live in peace and bring positivity to others and yourself. Trying to forgive yourself and others so you can move on is a healthy place to be.

   Love and Light,

   

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